Month: February 2018

When others break away

Sometimes people break away from us like branches from a tree. I know this might be tough advice to receive, but allow the falling away to happen. Don’t try to pull them back in, don’t try to graft them back to you. Give yourself some time to pause and reflect. Allow yourself to sit with your perspective of your memories together, give yourself grace and accept that you may not know the motivation behind their behaviour; behind their need to break away.

Maybe they weren’t getting enough nourishment from your tree. Maybe you weren’t bearing good fruit through the branch of your relationship with them. Maybe you’ll come back together in the future and be able to sort it out. Maybe you’ll never know why they created distance between you. Let go of the speculations; let go of the maybes. Trust me, you could drive yourself nuts with all the maybes. Instead, accept the current situation, try to find the lesson, figure out how you would do it differently next time, be thankful for the experience, give yourself grace and move on.

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A Date & Discovery

Hey hon! Had an afternoon date with hubby while the kiddies were in school and it was fantastic! It was such a blast holding hands, walking, talking and exploring our city; looking at familiar sites with fresh new eyes. At one point over lunch, I found myself laughing my big belly laugh, head thrown back, tears streaming from my eyes. It felt so good. As a reflective type, that moment made me look at my journey over the last few months to discover how I got here; to see how I got to this space of dreaminess and joy.

You see, as I’ve been reconnecting with myself (my mind, body and soul) I’ve been intentionally creating space in order to rediscover what brings me joy, what floats my boat and what lights me up. I’ve found that simply checking in with myself has allowed me to expand and breathe a little bit easier. It’s also made me organically reach out to my loved ones in a whole new way, in a softer and lighter way. Through touches, smiles and open expressions, I’m meeting them where they’re at and loving them lavishly from a place of fullness; my cup is full. This has created space for fun, spontaneity, savouring good food and taking time to leisurely gaze into their eyes and taking advantage of the mundane moments to hold them gently heart to heart.

It’s been a time of dreaming again, a season of the-sky-is-the limit excitement, where we’re letting our minds indulge in our hopes and visions. These seasons in our lives are important; they are where we see glimpses of the possibilities. There’s freedom and joy in these moments. The joy that comes with authentically connecting with your loved ones and the freedom to dream and grow together in a healthy and happy way. Looking to reconnect with yourself and begin to fill your cup? You can listen to some self-care affirmations here.

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Lessons I learned in Mazatlan, Mexico

Just got back from Mazatlan, Mexico where I went on vacation with my little family of four and my in-laws.  What struck me was how present I was able to be without all of the distractions of home. It was nice to simply break out of our routine and go with the flow. The kids had a great time hunting for seashells, spotting iguanas and leisurely swimming most of the day away.

While there, I realized once again, there’s so much we can learn from simply engaging in the moment with our kids. For example, I slowed WAY down, I smelled my favourite tropical flowers while walking along the paths. I lounged around and read an entire book I’ve been putting off for months. I drew pictures in the sand with my feet and explored flora, fauna, people, food, music and a new culture with the people I love the most in this world. Now we’re back home, I’ve decided to fall in line with my kids pace a little more often. In doing so, I might finally learn to practice, with consistency, the ever elusive art of being present.

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